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What I really want for Mother’s Day.

It’s funny.

I have to keep reminding myself that I’m a part of this whole deal now.

Every time I think of Mother’s Day, I immediately start wondering what to get my own mom. Not the fact that I have been a mom for a little over two years now. And I really still have no idea what I’m doing.

I have a two-year-old now, and she’s wonderful. But full of temper-tantrums and fussiness lately. The “terrible twos” or “terrific twos” or whatever the hell you want to call it, she’s got it now. Sure, there are bad moments, but also a lot of great ones I get the opportunity to witness.

Dear reader, if you are reading my post and wondering how money is going to magically appear for a gift you probably can’t afford, fear not! I have some ideas for you that don’t cost you anything but a bit of time and sweat equity. If you have the cash to spend, great! I also have ideas for you, too. But don’t feel like you have to go crazy.

I am a very busy person. (What mom these days isn’t?) As such, I love things that save me time and money, as well as my own sanity. I have become so scatterbrained at times, even the simplest of tasks may not be done unless I write them down or put them in my calendar. So here are some ideas from my own hectic perspective. Keep in mind, these are things that I would like, and not necessarily every mom would want. I’m probably a bit weird.

Coffee. Lots and lots of coffee.

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I cannot brain until I has the coffee.

I somehow manage to wake up at 4:30 in the morning most days of the week. However, I really can’t start my day without this miracle in a cup. It would just not be possible. This is also one of the nice little things I have for myself to start my day off on a positive, caffeinated, and awake-enough-to-function note. I have a coffee grinder at home, so I like to have the whole bean stuff on hand. Nothing beats freshly ground awesomeness in the morning.

And a helpful beverage container for on-the-go.

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These have been life-savers during long days (and nights).

If you wanted to make a great pairing to the above, I definitely recommend one of these babies. I have two that have been through hell and back, and they still work wonderfully. I definitely wouldn’t mind adding more to my collection.

A helpful subscription service or membership.

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Someone get me this. ASAP.

From subscription boxes like Smartass and Sass, grocery memberships like Costco, and the almighty Amazon Prime subscription, there are many options out there to choose from. If it helps me knock off stuff on my lengthy to-do list, or is just a nice way to treat myself at the end of the month, I’m down for it.

Cleaning services for the win.

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Did you see my sink? I need help.

Personally, I wouldn’t care if it was a professional or a friend coming to my aid here – I could always use a hand around the house and the yard to keep things clean and tidy. Seriously, it’s like a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders when I come back to a clean home after a long day of work.

Seriously, this one’s great if you know a new mom who is probably sending out SOS smoke signals from the burnout she could be experiencing. Even offering to cook dinner one night would not go unnoticed!

A chance for some alone time.

black headphones with mobile smartphone

A chance to recharge my batteries? Hell yeah, I’ll take it.

A moment of silence after weeks of noise, screaming and lack of personal space? Yes, please.

A nice, long, hot and uninterrupted shower that allows me to shave, exfoliate, and make me feel like a goddess again? Yes, yes, and yes.

I’ve always loved my alone time. After dealing with people all day (no offense, I love people most of the time), this allows me to reconnect with myself and how I am feeling. It’s definitely something I wish I could do more often.

Whether you offer to babysit or give the money to afford a sitter, this gift to me is a godsend.

Money for therapy. Or a spa day.

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Anything to help take care of my mental and physical health is a must these days. Making time for self-care is essential to my well being, and without it, I wouldn’t be able to kick ass as much as I do during the week. Whether it’s a gift certificate for a massage or a friend to vent my frustrations to, both are amazing things to have.

Wine and chocolate.

No picture or explanation needed here. Just because life.

A playdate without kids.

Moms need to stick together, but we also seem to be eternally exhausted. Can we just binge watch Netflix shows in our pajamas together? With some pizza and the above wine and chocolate, it would be perfect for me.

A thing from my own kid.

No matter what it would be, it would make my heart melt. It could be a picture of them, a picture they drew, or something that will remind me of them during the day, especially when I’m away.

And one last thing… Sleep!

alone bed bedroom blur

I need this to function. Allow me to take a nap once in a while. And I’ll be yours. Smitten forever.

 

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My top 5 last minute ‘gifts’ for mother’s day.

While I’m all for any excuse to get out of the house and pamper myself with special dinners and spa days and extravagant things, it’s not always realistic or practical to do such things. I’m sure there’s still a lot of you out there that wish you could buy your mom a private island and the entire solar system. (Or something.) But we’re obviously strapped for cash these days, I get it.

Since this is my second mother’s day, I thought I would share my quick list of things that I can think of that can help show your appreciation and won’t break the bank.

1. Favorite food.

Unless she’s got expensive taste, this is always a nice treat. Some favorites of mine are chocolate covered strawberries, some wine, and anything covered in cheese.

2. Get coffee.

I mean, you can literally do this together, but this is more along the lines of getting together and catching up with each other and having some quality chat time.

3. Give her a minute.

Or better yet, a whole day free of any responsibility! Do the dishes, laundry, mow the lawn, balance the checkbook – just make sure if there is anything that doesn’t sound fun to you, don’t let her do it. It may be hard to do but let her have the day off!

4. Support her hobbies.

Unless it’s something expensive like collecting diamonds or something ridiculous, get her something that she’d enjoy, whether that’s gardening supplies or sports equipment or whatever. If you can’t buy anything, then spend the day doing something she loves to do and just hang out!

5. (Hint, you are her greatest gift.)

It’s true. You came crashing into her world and turned it upside down for a while, but just know that at the end of the day, the retailers can try and make bank off of this occasion, but you can’t buy her happiness. So no worries if you haven’t been able to drop stacks of cash for the last few Mother’s Days, just know that you are enough and just go spend some time with her!

And I realize that there are other situations that can make that difficult (i.e. a rocky/damaged relationship or no relationship at all/being raised by someone else). If that is you, take that time and go spend it with your biggest supporter. Whether that’s your dad, a certain grandparent, or even a friend. Let them know that they’re awesome today.

And don’t let yourself feel inadequate because you can’t buy the world for them – just know you are enough.

Have a great one, guys!